The VH1 premiere of “Twinning” featured a whole bunch of twins who would be separated into two separate houses, then pit against their twin in challenges to test their twin psychicness when they are separated. When the twins are told they will be separating the whole mood of the show changes…faces look shocked, worried, confused. Some cry, one almost pee’s his pants, one says she would “lose her mind” without her twin, yet another says “Without my twin I’m nothing.”
Their strong reactions to twin separation demonstrate just how difficult it is for a twin to function without their twin. Why wouldn’t this be the case for womb twin survivors who must be born without their twin? Being born is the scariest thing we will do, aside from dying, a time when the comfort of familiarity would be extra important. Add to this the biggest death trauma possible (twin loss is bigger than losing a child or a spouse or a parent), not to mention the fact that newborn babies are extremely vulnerable, and you have a recipe for disaster. This emotional disaster is the birthright of a born-alone twin.
Back to Twinning, the show ended with the twins reuniting…one twin says it’s like “the whole is put back together, it’s amazing to be together again” – and so it goes that womb twin survivors must put the wholeness back together in themselves by reclaiming both their twin and individual identities.